Heavy stuff to load off your shoulders.
People sometimes ask me to define what my practice of Transgenerational Therapy is really about.
After all those years of study and research, I still think it is quite difficult to reduce/resume what I do – specially since I am not applying the preceps of any specific school, I am not following a specific line or a set frame. I have digested and integrated several teachings and spiritual practices. Ancestral healing. Tarot. Psychogenealogy. Shamanism. Animism. Jungian psychology. Transgenerational trauma therapy.
I can start by saying that all these methods have allowed me first and foremost to better understand who I am, why I am the way I am, why I behave the way I behave. It has also helped me understand that I am not alone, that my pain and my wounds are not (only) of my own making; that they have been also made by others, with others, for others and also mostly that they have been felt by others. I did not arrive in that specific family by chance; many of my ancestors have worked for me to arrive here and now. They gave me the force and the light to be exactly me and do exactly what I am doing. This is what I am helping people to do too. Together we are investigating the past (and the present – and sometime the future too!) in order to integrate it – the events – the joys – the failures – the people – the ghosts – the ancestors – the dead – the living – in order to become who we are. Entirely. And to be a little more at peace.
My ancestors have been building the cosmology I am finding myself in, the challenging landscapes but also the precious gifts and values I have inherited. Every day the transgenerational dimension of myself is activated and every day I am grateful for that conscious way of life. I dont say it is easy. It demands work and dedication. Sometimes I am really tired and going in circles. But I am grateful.
The act of drawing my family tree and genogram has allowed me to understand that my family is pretty messed up (like most of the families!). It has allowed me to understand that blood ties are crucial and the harder you try to cut them the stronger they will grow back…visible and invisible.
If you are angry towards any member of your family, like your mother for example, you are tied to her. Never can you be free neither from your anger, neither from your mother...
I am always passionate in discovering all that emanates from the weaving of the family tree of my clients. Its always fasinating to dive into the subtle and silent functioning of the family’s collective unconsciousness influences our daily life.
I decided rather late in my life to undertake the task of reconciliation with my ancestral roots. This was done mainly with the help of my teachers. In France, Bruno Clavier (www.clavier-bruno.org/) has taught me a lot. He has given me the confidence I needed. He is a great inspiration. He was also the one to initiate me to (Modern) Shamanism – among other teachings. He is the student of a great psychoanalyst Didier Dumas. He has continued his legacy educating therapist in transgenerational therapy in his school in Paris (www.jardindidees.org).
Another important inspiration and foundational teacher is Daniel Foor. (www.ancestralmedecine.com) Daniel teaches Ancestral Healing; he has created a fascinating and innovative method inspired by his Òrìṣà tradition (Yorùbá-speaking West Africa) and other indigenous knowledges. His method is pragmatic, approachable and learnable. He teaches animism, ritual, ceremony and through him, I became aware of my immense ignorance on so many traditions all forgotten long ago by my ancestors. I have gained a lot from listening to him. All the readings, teachings, practices and theories assimilated and integrated during the last years allow me today to find inner peace, to accept and recognize the living memory of my ascendants and help others walk the path of that important healing process.
The mere act of coming into contact with our ancestors, provokes tangible effects in our daily lives, bringing up emotional states, synchronicities that open up new fields of research…which becomes more and more important with my ongoing experience.
Your Parents, your Grandparents, their spouses, their ascendants, the different lineages, everyone of all these people make up a whole and they all have an energetic and emotional influence in our lives.
Each detail is significant, the moments of joy and the times of suffering, career choices, given names, middle names, dates of conception, birth, marriage, death, miscarriages, abortions; all these elements are precious indicators of the links and resonances between the past and present. All these energies are active within us, and these particular memories are held within our cellular structures.
The process of decoding the messages and the traces left in the past and from the past, serve as beacons that illuminate the present, and continue to fascinate me. It also allows me to follow the progression on life’s path.
In general, all families create suffering through secrets, shame, loss, abandonment, injustice, violence, incest, and unresolved grieving, but these are not the only source spreading toxicity in our lives. All social (power) structures, no matter what their tendencies or origin, generate pressure, whether it be patriarchy, racism, anthropocentrism, sexism, or ableism, suffering, slavery, colonialism, harassment, and brutality.
All that.
Heavy stuff to carry on your shoulders. Heavy stuff to load off your shoulders.
Ghosts and Vampires are also born through those stories created by social, political and economic disparities. Once we become aware of these (negative) elements but don’t have deep shifts of consciousness, these energies can parasite our body mind and spirit repeatedly, and keep us from living life to its fullest.
The good news is that there are many tools to help clean, liberate, and transform past suffering.
We all originate from a weaving whose threads bear the imprint of timeframes of collective memories, geographic, social, cultural, economical, political, realities that all intermingle and meet particular experiences.
Understanding the patterns of one’s unconscious mind allows us to live the present moment without fears or beliefs that don’t belong to us.
This is a way to transmute our ancestral past. The encounter with our roots allows us to establish a relationship with our ancestors. The crossroads between visible and invisible, material and spiritual.
If you feel a calling to delve into the richness of your ancestral memories and heal past, present, and future generations, please feel free to contact me. I work online only by donation (free if people do not have the means to pay).